【雙語閱讀】人人都應(yīng)該學(xué)習(xí)的20個(gè)軟技能.

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　　以下部分為【雙語閱讀】?jī)?nèi)容，中文翻譯部分見第二頁。

　　Every office, every building, everywhere you go, you see people who are just difficult to get on with. They can be obnoxious, rude, inconsiderate, or just plain clumsy. They may even be brilliant at what they do, but you just know that when it comes to socializing and interacting with people. They are terrible at it and you usually avoid these people whenever possible. Emotional intelligence, social graces, friendliness are just some of the things these people lack. These things are known as “soft skills” and we all need them, otherwise we could end up as social outcasts or as ‘that weird guy’ who nobody wants to deal with.

　　To better improve your “soft skills”, here are 20 tips you can follow:

　　1. How to remember people’s names, faces, or places. If you can remember at least one of these, you’re heading in the right direction.

　　2. Opening successive doors for people. (It takes finesse if you’re doing it for multiple and consecutive sets of doors — and you have multiple people.)

　　3. Keeping in contact with your relationships. A great way to hone your soft skills and maintain relationships.

　　4. Learn to be a better listener. Don’t interrupt people, don’t try to control the conversation, and show genuine interest in what people are saying.

　　5. Offer people something to drink and eat when they enter your home.

　　6. Learn how to make fast healthy snacks for your visitors.

　　7. The Elevator Rule. Let others out first. This also applies to “non-elevator” situations as well, such as on buses, boats, and trains.

　　8. Practice writing emails to be short, respectful, and to the point. No one wants to read an essay in email format.

　　9. Being discreet when giving tips to relevant service professionals. No one should see the money. This takes some finesse.

　　10. Cell phone manners. No one wants to hear your conversation in public transport. It’s supposed to be a private conversation, not a public broadcast.

　　11. Handwriting letters to people adds a personal touch. You can meet almost anyone with enough persistent handwritten letters.

　　12. Take interest in the passions of others. This might mean feigning interest initially, but it’s likely that feigned interest will eventually transform itself into a genuine feeling.

　　13. Taking pride in your appearance helps to make you feel good — and improves how people perceive you.

　　14. If someone walks into a conversation, bring them up to speed or give them an idea of what you’re talking about…as well as a short intro. For example: “Kevin this is Frank, my friend from school. We were just talking about this new smartphone app.”

　　15. Keep a mental note of people’s extroversion/introversion tendencies. It prepares you for their reaction to the events or situations around them and builds up your empathy.

　　16. Make introductions. (Most people are awful at this and many more forget to ever do this… probably because they can’t remember people’s names.)

　　17. Stay positive. Don’t whine and complain. It gives people a negative impression about your outlook on life and makes people think you are ‘grumpy’.

　　18. Don’t babble. You know people who just won’t shut up. You usually avoid them because you want to engage in a conversation, not be talked at. Don’t be like them.

　　19. Tolerance and patience. You will meet people who seem to have no redeeming qualities. Showing tolerance is a great way to accept people for who they are.

　　20 .Don’t argue. This doesn’t mean you should be a “yes man”, or act dumb. It means you should try to see things from their perspective or situation, even if you don’t agree. You maybe able to empathize with them.

　　Learning good social skills can make you more approachable, and people will see you in a better, more positive light. It will enhance your social aptitude and the more you practice it, the more you will improve in your sociability. It will help in your personal and work life.

　　每一間辦公室，每一棟大樓，你所到之處都會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)有人難以融入他們所處的環(huán)境。他們要么惹人討厭、粗魯無禮，要么不為他人著想，或者笨手笨腳。他們也許在自己的專業(yè)方面很優(yōu)秀，但在社會(huì)人際交往方面就完全不行。他們?cè)谏缃环矫嬉凰?，人們都盡可能避免和這類人打交道。情商、社會(huì)禮儀、親切感正是這類人所缺乏的。這些要素被稱為“軟技能”，我們都需要它們，否則我們就可能被社會(huì)排擠，或者變成人人避而遠(yuǎn)之的“怪人”。

　　想要加強(qiáng)你的軟技能，可以試試下面這20條小貼士：

　　1知道如何記住他人的姓名、長(zhǎng)相和工作地點(diǎn)。如果你能至少記住其中一項(xiàng)，你已經(jīng)找對(duì)方向了。

　　2幫他人打開幾扇連續(xù)的門。(如果是很多扇連在一起的門，而且同時(shí)有多個(gè)人通過，是需要策略的。)

　　3和你的人際圈里保持聯(lián)系。這是提升軟技能并保持人際關(guān)系的好辦法。

　　4學(xué)會(huì)做一名更好的傾聽者。不要打斷他人的說話，不要試圖掌控一場(chǎng)談話，要對(duì)他人所講的事情表現(xiàn)出真誠(chéng)的興趣。

　　5當(dāng)有人來你家做客時(shí)，準(zhǔn)備食物飲料招待他們。

　　6學(xué)習(xí)為你的訪客快速制作健康的小點(diǎn)心。

　　7電梯法則——讓他人先出去。這在“非電梯”情況下也同樣適用，比如在汽車、船只或者火車上。

　　8 練習(xí)寫作電子郵件，做到簡(jiǎn)單明了且有禮貌。沒有人想讀一封像散文一樣的電子郵件。

　　9在給相關(guān)服務(wù)人士小費(fèi)時(shí)要注意，不要讓其他人看到你給了多少錢。這需要一些技巧。

　　10手機(jī)禮儀。沒有人想在乘坐公共交通工具時(shí)聽到你的談話。這應(yīng)該是私人談話，而不是公共廣播。

　　11手寫的信件會(huì)增加一份親切感。手寫信件累積到足夠多時(shí)，你就好像見到了這個(gè)人一樣。

　　12對(duì)他人所熱衷的食物抱有興趣。最初也許意味著你要假裝感興趣，但很有可能這種假裝的興趣最終會(huì)演變?yōu)檎嬲呐d趣。

　　13對(duì)自己的外表有自信會(huì)讓你有好心情——也有助于他人對(duì)你產(chǎn)生好的印象。

　　14如果有人新加入一場(chǎng)談話，幫助他們跟上你們的節(jié)奏，告訴他們你們?cè)诹男┦裁?，并?jiǎn)單介紹一些其他人。比如這樣：“凱文，這是弗蘭克，我在學(xué)校的朋友。我們剛剛聊到這個(gè)新的智能手機(jī)應(yīng)用程序?！?/p>

　　15記住他人或外向或內(nèi)向的性格特點(diǎn)。這樣你就會(huì)知道他們對(duì)于周圍的事情會(huì)做出何種反應(yīng)，幫助你建立同感。

　　16在朋友之間做相互介紹。(大多數(shù)對(duì)此不擅長(zhǎng)，更多的人根本就忘了這個(gè)……也許因?yàn)樗麄冇洸蛔e人的名字。)

　　17保持積極的情緒。不要怨天尤人。這會(huì)讓他人對(duì)你的生活態(tài)度留下負(fù)面印象，而且讓人覺得你是一個(gè)“暴脾氣”。

　　18不要喋喋不休。你認(rèn)識(shí)一些一說話就停不住的人，你不愿和他們打交道，因?yàn)槟阋蚕爰尤胍粓?chǎng)談話，而不只是當(dāng)聽眾。不要做這樣的人。

　　19保持寬容和忍耐。你會(huì)遇到一些似乎不知道道歉的人。寬容大度是接受這些人的最好辦法。

　　20不要與人爭(zhēng)執(zhí)。這并不意味著你要一味附和或者裝聾作啞，而是你應(yīng)該試著站在他人的角度去看問題，哪怕你并不認(rèn)同他們。這樣一來你也許會(huì)理解他們的想法。

　　學(xué)習(xí)社交技能會(huì)讓你更平易近人，人們也會(huì)對(duì)你產(chǎn)生更好更積極的印象。這會(huì)提升你的社交能力，你越多加練習(xí)，你的交際能力就越好。這會(huì)對(duì)你的生活和工作都產(chǎn)生幫助。

　　為幫助廣大考生更好地準(zhǔn)備雅思、托福、SAT等考試，澳際留學(xué)特推出【英語學(xué)習(xí)】頻道，涵蓋基礎(chǔ)英語、實(shí)用英語、娛樂英語等多項(xiàng)內(nèi)容，在您通往成功的道路上做您最堅(jiān)實(shí)的左膀右臂。

　　以下部分為【雙語閱讀】?jī)?nèi)容，中文翻譯部分見第二頁。

　　Every office, every building, everywhere you go, you see people who are just difficult to get on with. They can be obnoxious, rude, inconsiderate, or just plain clumsy. They may even be brilliant at what they do, but you just know that when it comes to socializing and interacting with people. They are terrible at it and you usually avoid these people whenever possible. Emotional intelligence, social graces, friendliness are just some of the things these people lack. These things are known as “soft skills” and we all need them, otherwise we could end up as social outcasts or as ‘that weird guy’ who nobody wants to deal with.

　　To better improve your “soft skills”, here are 20 tips you can follow:

　　1. How to remember people’s names, faces, or places. If you can remember at least one of these, you’re heading in the right direction.

　　2. Opening successive doors for people. (It takes finesse if you’re doing it for multiple and consecutive sets of doors — and you have multiple people.)

　　3. Keeping in contact with your relationships. A great way to hone your soft skills and maintain relationships.

　　4. Learn to be a better listener. Don’t interrupt people, don’t try to control the conversation, and show genuine interest in what people are saying.

　　5. Offer people something to drink and eat when they enter your home.

　　6. Learn how to make fast healthy snacks for your visitors.

　　7. The Elevator Rule. Let others out first. This also applies to “non-elevator” situations as well, such as on buses, boats, and trains.

　　8. Practice writing emails to be short, respectful, and to the point. No one wants to read an essay in email format.

　　9. Being discreet when giving tips to relevant service professionals. No one should see the money. This takes some finesse.

　　10. Cell phone manners. No one wants to hear your conversation in public transport. It’s supposed to be a private conversation, not a public broadcast.

　　11. Handwriting letters to people adds a personal touch. You can meet almost anyone with enough persistent handwritten letters.

　　12. Take interest in the passions of others. This might mean feigning interest initially, but it’s likely that feigned interest will eventually transform itself into a genuine feeling.

　　13. Taking pride in your appearance helps to make you feel good — and improves how people perceive you.

　　14. If someone walks into a conversation, bring them up to speed or give them an idea of what you’re talking about…as well as a short intro. For example: “Kevin this is Frank, my friend from school. We were just talking about this new smartphone app.”

　　15. Keep a mental note of people’s extroversion/introversion tendencies. It prepares you for their reaction to the events or situations around them and builds up your empathy.

　　16. Make introductions. (Most people are awful at this and many more forget to ever do this… probably because they can’t remember people’s names.)

　　17. Stay positive. Don’t whine and complain. It gives people a negative impression about your outlook on life and makes people think you are ‘grumpy’.

　　18. Don’t babble. You know people who just won’t shut up. You usually avoid them because you want to engage in a conversation, not be talked at. Don’t be like them.

　　19. Tolerance and patience. You will meet people who seem to have no redeeming qualities. Showing tolerance is a great way to accept people for who they are.

　　20 .Don’t argue. This doesn’t mean you should be a “yes man”, or act dumb. It means you should try to see things from their perspective or situation, even if you don’t agree. You maybe able to empathize with them.

　　Learning good social skills can make you more approachable, and people will see you in a better, more positive light. It will enhance your social aptitude and the more you practice it, the more you will improve in your sociability. It will help in your personal and work life.

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